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Practicing Self-Compassion: How the “Golden Rule” Gets it Wrong

How the Golden Rule gets it wrong... Most of us grew up learningΒ  the infamous 𝘨𝘰𝘭π˜₯𝘦𝘯 𝘳𝘢𝘭𝘦: β€œTreat others how you want to be treated”. It's a great concept, yet we never learned perhaps an even more important rule: how to treat ourselves with compassion.⁣...

Is People Pleasing a trauma response?

Is People Pleasing a trauma response?

As with most things, π™žπ™©'𝙨 π™˜π™€π™’π™₯π™‘π™žπ™˜π™–π™©π™šπ™™ 𝙖𝙣𝙙 π™žπ™© π™™π™šπ™₯π™šπ™£π™™π™¨. I've been seeing a lot of information recently about people pleasing being a trauma response, and while it CAN be, it can also develop from any number of situations and factors. ⁣ ⁣ When talking about people...

Myth Busting: Self-Compassion Edition

Let’s do some myth-busting! People are often resistant to. practicing self-compassion due to one of these misconceptions about what self-compassion involves or what it says about you. The research supports that self-compassion is one of the biggest indicators of...

EMDR explained

EMDR seems to be everywhere these days. Even Prince Harry has done EMDR therapy! So, what exactly is EMDR?𝐒𝐨 𝐰𝐑𝐚𝐭 𝐒𝐬 π„πŒπƒπ‘? ⁣EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. EMDR is an evidence-based treatment used in psychotherapy to treat trauma and...

how to tame the inner critic

We all have a critical part of ourselves, I know I do. And for those of you who identify as high achievers, perfectionists or highly sensitive, the inner critic tends to be LOUD. Instead of trying to ignore it, repress it or make...

five tips for coping with holiday stress

#1: Create time for mini check-in’s with yourself throughout the day. As cliche as it sounds, it’s helpful to β€œname it, to tame it” by checking in with yourself and working to label your feelings. Feelings are meant to be felt after all.  Keep in mind that...

why everyone is so obsessed with deep-breathing

Ever felt annoyed when someone said "just take a deep breath"? ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀I have.⁣ Yet, our breath can be our biggest ally. ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀Did you know breathing is one of the only functions of the body that is both involuntary and voluntary?We can...

the perfectionism puzzle

A piece of the perfectionism puzzle is often an underlying fear of what others think. ⁣The fear of being judged, criticized or shame.⁣ We tend to struggle with perfectionism most in areas were we feel vulnerable to shame. ⁣Why? Because as humans we are hard wired for...

the art of self-compassion

Self-compassion isn’t that different than having compassion for others. ⁣My favorite definition of self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness and compassion as you would a dear loved one. There are 3 basic elements of mindful self-compassion:...